(photo by Be Loud Be You)
My biggest 'aha' moment this week was a very touching story. As we were parked at Wholefoods trying to figure out what bag to take into the store and if we even had one, my husband and I heard this woman with her 6 year old kid say, "This is the best tasting Popsicle ever!".
Her car was parked next to ours, she must have overheard us talking about the bags and said to us, "If you wait one more minute you can have mine."
"No worries," I said to her, "we'll find something here." Then she came out of her car and handed me her cloth bag. I looked at her and said, "Are you sure?", which she responded, "Yes, it's no big deal, I just got told by my doctor that I only have 17 weeks to live so it's just a bag, I really don't need it".
Wow, I gasped. I noticed her head, balding from the chemo treatments, then looked into her sweet eyes and all I could do was give her a hug.
She was all shaken up, she started to get all teary and told me, "Sorry I'm crying, they just told me 2 hours ago. All I want is to live for my son, he's only 6 years old."
What do you say to that? I didn't have answers. I hugged her again, she cried, I cried and then she said, "I'm going up to the opera house tonight with him.
We're having paté, cheese, and bread and enjoying the evening. I don't know what I'll do, I might start one of those fundraisers so that I can look into alternative medicines and other options. But, I'm kind of embarrassed to even do that because I don't want to ask people for money." I gave her my card and told her that if she needed any support with anything to let us know.
I was left speechless. I'm not quite sure why that happened, I don't know if she'll even contact me. As a mother of a 2 year old I feel for her. I'm not quite sure what I would do in her situation, yet I saw the love, care and worry in her eyes. It got me thinking about the whole scenario and what if this was happening to me. So I want to dedicate this post to Andrea and her son Javier. For her courage and for wanting to leave a legacy for her child.
FIVE STEPS TO CREATING A LEGACY & A MEANINGFUL LIFE
“Legacy is not what's left tomorrow when you're gone. It's what you give, create, impact and contribute today while you're here that then happens to live on.”
What a beautiful quote. After my encounter with Andrea and hearing that she was told that she only had 17 weeks to live I thought to myself , I hope our paths cross again so that I can support her in some way and may she make the best out of the time she has.
As that thought was finishing a new one popped into my head that said "You think you have more time than her but the truth is that you don't know." We tend to feel invincible like we're going to live until our old age and that death is not something near to us. The truth is that we could drop dead tomorrow, heck, we could drop dead in the next minute!
Here are my five steps to creating a legacy & a meaningful life:
- Follow your passions. Have you done everything that you've always wanted to do? Did you ever create a bucket- list? If so, how many things have you scratched off that list? Where do you stand on the scale of courage? Do you play? Do you dance? Are you silly? Do you admire the beautiful miracles that take place in your life on a daily basis or do you whine about how bad your life is? Do you look at the world with the same wonderment that children do? You are alive, take advantage, start doing all those things that you thought you'd do some day and do them now.
- Let go of fears and regrets, be courageous. Did you go through life mopping, complaining and full of fears and regrets or did you make the best of what you were given? Get yourself to be comfortable in the uncomfortable. Did you take risks and do things that were hard for you but at the end of the day gave you a sense of pride? Did you abide by the norms or did you create your own rules? You still have time, drop the fears and be brave! What's the worst that could happen?
- Create your legacy. How do you want to be remembered? What's the legacy you're leaving behind? Like the quote says: what are you giving, creating and contributing in your life? What impact are you causing on those around you? On your family? On your community? On the planet? I'm not asking these questions to make you feel guilty but to make you be aware, there's still time to start living again. We were given life to enjoy it, to have fun, to explore this journey and everything that comes with it. Make it a treat.
- Love. Did you tell your loved ones that you love them and more importantly did you show them through actions? I think this is a fundamental question, LOVE is the basis of everything. When we go to the grave we won't be able to take our cars, our homes, our bank accounts but we will take the joy of the love that we gave out and received. Love is what we will leave behind.
I believe that life is based on our capacity to love one another. People will remember us not by our accolades but by how we made them feel and how we loved them. Tell your family, friends and acquaintances how important they are to you, don't wait until you have to read a eulogy where they won't even get the joy to hear your words. Hug more, love more, live more!
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